This week's blog post is specifically about love. Get ready, I have a lot to say on the topic. :)
I'm always saying the statement "There's a difference between love & like." Not to mention, I think falling in love & loving something\someone is completely different.
I really dislike my generation. That sounds bad, but it's true. I cannot stand the way people throw around the word "love" like it's nothing. Love isn't just a word, it's a feeling, an emotion, it's something we are.
You don't wake up one day & say "Oh hey, I think I love you." And then next week you're cursing them and hating them with every bone in your body. It doesn't work like that.
Maybe I'm not optimistic enough, but I highly doubt that after dating someone over the course of a month you know with all of your heart that you want to spend forever with them.
That's what I see falling in love as. It's finding that person who you want to share your life with. That person who accepts & cares about you despite your flaws. The one person who's happiness is more important than your own, and you'd do anything in your power to give them that.
So please explain to me why kids my age keep "falling in & out of love" every 4 months. A relationship ends, a new one starts a week later. If you love this kid so dang much why didn't you fight harder to make it work? I know if I talked about a guy as highly or as much as some of my friends have...I'd want that boy to get down on one knee!
It's frustrating. Why rush something that is so beautiful? Why become so obsessed with one person that you literally brainwash yourself into thinking you "love" him.
You like him. You think he's adorable. He makes you laugh, and reminds you that you're amazing. Like I said, you like him.
No love. That is so far from love.
Whenever you girls start to see that boy as a man, as a father, as a provider, as a husband, as a man of God, and as somebody you want to spend the rest of your life with...then you can come talk to me about being in love.
Otherwise, I don't wanna hear it. You like him. It's called a crush, not love.
Don't overuse a word that is so precious.
You are very right, Hayley. I know as a teenager I probably threw the word around too much. And what's funny is that after marrying Brian so young, I always tell people (when they ask) that we grew into love and grew up together. Hate to tell you, though, when it comes to dealing with the opposite sex, girls will be annoying the next 5 years....10 years....and maybe even beyond!
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