In the future...

So, since I'm on this theme of writing letters to people I thought that I would continue that for this week. 


Naturally, as a teenager, guys are one thing that I think about. Something that I think about more than guys though...is my future. Who am I going to be? What am I going to be like? Will I be married, or will I wait a little while. Will I be in love? Or will I be called to the life of singularity? When will I have kids, if any kids at all? Will I have a job? Or will I even be alive? How long do I have left on this earth? 


So many questions I wonder about. Problem is, I'm running this race... against time. I'm never going to be able to know what is going to happen in the future. Ever. It's just something that I will have to experience. 


So here it is, my letter to my future husband. This may be a little personal, but I'm learning that opening up with people isn't as bad as I make it out to be.  Whoever this guy will be, whether or not he's in my life right now or not, should at least know what I was like as a teenager...and maybe I'll be able to give him some tips.  It can't hurt anything, so here we go. 


Dear future husband, 


Firstly, if I ever get to the point where I call you my "hubby" you have my permission to tell me to shut up. Personally, I hate that term and it gives me chills to hear people say it. Is it that hard to say the word husband? Okay, glad I got that off my chest. 


I'm probably one of the most opinionated people on the face of the earth. I have these feelings & thoughts on life that sometimes I can't even explain. Needless to say, I'm kinda confusing. I don't consider myself normal, at all. And quite honestly, I'm perfectly okay with that. My standards don't rely on what the world thinks is acceptable. 


I always tell myself that since hockey is my one true love, I won't ever find a guy. This might be true. Haha. I have this deep passion for the sport that is always burning. I have fallen in love with everything about it, and I hope this is something that I never lose. 


I'm not romantic, at all. I'm hoping this doesn't change either. I find romance so cheesy & I am content with not getting flowers, jewelry, or having a fancy dinner. Wanna be romantic? Spend some quality time with me. Write me a note on how you feel. Make me laugh. Get to know my family & siblings, because in the long-run...those are the things that are going to matter. 


When I picture myself as a wife, I picture myself as a mother as well. Don't get me wrong, I'm not planning on having kids until I have learned the act of patience. Which means we're looking at maybe the age 35 by the time I have kids. Being a mother and parenting a child is something I really want, and I pray that we can agree as parents together, for our child\children.


One thing I have always look for in a guy is their listening ability. I will listen to people for hours talk about their lives, and I love being able to do so...but I haven't exactly found someone who will do the same for me. I may be rambling about the dumbest thing in the world & you might not understand what I'm talking about but all I ask is that you listen. Regardless if I'm bawling my eyes out and you can't even make out the words that I'm saying, just listen. I don't even care if you don't have anything to say! Just being there means more than I could ever tell. 


Get to know my Daddy. He's so wise & down-to-earth that there is no possible way you couldn't adore him. Earn my Momma's respect and trust, and you'll win her over. Reassure my brother Dylan that you're not a jerk, cause he'll put you in your place. Become a protective older brother for my sister Natalie because Lord knows she's gonna have boys trying to get her attention. As for Nathan, become his best friend and he will love you forever. 


I think the biggest keys in a relationship are trust & laughter. That may sound naive and maybe a little stupid...but I honestly believe that. My opinion may change as I get older but as of right now I couldn't imagine a happier relationship. If you trust your significant other than everything else should fall into place, right? You trust you know where they stand in their beliefs. You trust they're not lying to you about anything. You trust you know they're not going to leave you. And more importantly, you trust & know that they love you.  As for laughter, that's explanatory. A relationship without laughing isn't even a relationship. It's dead. 


I have so much more to say...but I'm getting tired of typing. I don't know when you will be apart of my life, but know that I already love you unconditionally and can't wait to start our lives together. 


-Hayley